Most of us want to be strong. Being strong comes with a lot of advantages. Strong people are incredibly committed and disciplined. They take challenges with a big smile on their faces, and often come out on top. They’re disciplined and committed to whatever they do. Everyone likes to have a guy on their team who just won’t quit no matter what.
However, there’s a flip side to the story. Being strong can intimidate others, and make you look domineering. Plus, it is not easy. It requires lots of patience, courage, and discipline, which is not everyone’s cup of tea.
Here’s couple of things strong people need to watch out for:
1. Colleagues and friends might get intimidated by you: While a no-nonsense attitude is a strong person’s best qualities, it can also scare people around them. A high level of commitment to goals can make you seem unfriendly and closed, which isn’t always a good thing, especially if you’re a part of a team. Not only can this hurt your social life, but you might also end up doing everything by yourself.
TIP: A little openness never hurt nobody. Make sure you try to get along with people whom you have to work with, even if it seems like an effort.
2. It can be drag: Being strong takes work. You need a lot of discipline and ability to check procrastination. Above all, you have to be careful to not show weakness, especially in front of others. All this can be emotionally exhausting, and may even cause you to burn out!
TIP: Don’t forget that even strong people are human beings. Don’t be afraid to be in touch with your gentler side, and open up about your problems to some close friends. Who knows? They might have some solid advice that could help. In any case, having a listening ear is always therapeutic.
3. You might get taken advantage of: Strong people often pride themselves on not needing help. While admirable, others can also use this to make you do all the work, while they sit around and have fun. You might get duped into doing all the heavy lifting while others get a free pass.
TIP: Do not get carried away by your desire to show everyone how strong you are. Make sure that your friends and colleagues share equal responsibilities for every task.
4. It can be exhausting: Studies indicate that strong people are often afraid to ask for help. This is because they are afraid of looking like someone who needs support. They might end up struggling with something that could be done easily with help.
TIP: It’s okay to ask for help! In fact, admitting that you do not know something is often the first step to learn it. After all, there’s always a first time, right?
5. You might become a control freak: Strong people usually want things to be exactly as they want, down to the finest detail. This becomes a problem when they are unwilling to allow the people around them to have a say. This can lead to problems in relationships where the other person feels ignored or dominated.
TIP: “My way or the highway” isn’t the best way to go about things. Learn to trust other people. Know about their strengths and weaknesses and work with them accordingly.
6. You might not enjoy life as much: Being strong comes with extra responsibilities. Unfortunately, that can mean less time for yourself. The urge to appear strong also means you will be less inclined to kick back and relax.
TIP: Take things easy. Guess what, you’re not the only responsible guy in the world. So take a break, pop a cold one, sit back and relax when you get a chance. You might not get a chance later.
7. You might get into confrontations: Strong people rarely budge, and when there’s two of a kind in a room, things could go south. You may get into spats with other strong people who might not like the way you do things.
TIP: Whatever you do, remain calm! Accept the fact that the other person might have something valuable to contribute. Try to collaborate, understand their strengths and weaknesses and use them in a constructive manner. Learn to trust other people too.
No doubt about it, being strong is wonderful. Strong people are motivated, energetic and disciplined. Above all, they are extremely reliable and you know you can lean on them to get things done. Like anything else in life, too much of a good thing can actually be bad. Learn to accommodate others into your plans, and life with be much happier and joyful!